by Amy Matthews | Jul 30, 2018 | In-Power |
It’s not always easy to tell the truth.
Many women have a hard time telling the truth because they don’t want to hurt or disappoint another. Or they want to protect someone. Or they want to be liked and fear that if they tell the truth, they will be resented or even rejected.
I get it, telling the truth can be uncomfortable. Even though I’m known for speaking my truth, I’ve been guilty of not telling the truth too. Sometimes it’s just easier to sweep it under the rug. But here’s the thing. When we keep our true feelings hidden, it’s always at the expense of not being true to who we really are.
Truth is power. It’s necessary for a fulfilling life. Telling the truth empowers not only you, but the other person. Truth is a sign of love. It deepens trust, intimacy and strengthens relationships.
Now, I’m not giving you permission to go on a rant about everything under the sun. Know what you want to say before you say it. Ask yourself, is it kind, is it true, is it useful? Once you’re clear, communicate with compassion, connection and kindness.
In today’s world where truth is not a given, people appreciate honesty. People respect the truth. People appreciate and respect knowing where you stand.
If there’s an area in your life where you’re not speaking your truth, be courageous! Express your true feelings, no matter how scary it may be. Once you do, your life will become more real and fulfilling.
by Amy Matthews | Jul 23, 2018 | Inspiration |
The topic of “not settling” keeps coming up in my conversations with coaching clients and friends.
So many of us settle for something less than what we really want. At some point – we all have settled – whether in a romantic relationship, a friendship or in a work situation. I certainly have! Though, I didn’t always know I was settling, at the time.
I think “settling” occurs for many reasons. It happens when we don’t believe in ourselves, or when we don’t feel worthy or don’t feel we deserve something better. Or we want to play it safe, not rock the boat or want an easy way out. Or we have a deep fear that we can’t have what we really want.
We settle when we don’t respect our own needs and wants. We settle when we don’t love and care for ourselves as much as we love others.
Whatever your situation, you don’t have to settle. You always have a choice.
You don’t have to stay in a stressful job that sucks the life out of you.
You don’t have to stay in a relationship that has lost its magic.
You don’t have to be friends with people who don’t have your back.
Start making choices that reflect what you truly want. Once you do, you’ll feel good. You’ll feel happy and at ease and new opportunities will come your way.
Embrace What You Really Want.
Embrace What You Believe In.
Embrace Your Badass Self.
If you don’t, who will? Come on, I dare you.
by Amy Matthews | Jul 16, 2018 | Inspiration |
I’ve talked with several women lately who have told me they feel a change stirring deep within themselves. A feeling they are about to break out of their self-imposed shell, a feeling they are ready to unleash themselves. Something is awakening in their very being that’s saying, No more holding back. No more saying Yes to please others.
Have you ever had such a feeling?
Many of us were brought up to be “good girls”. To be modest, proper, to not rock the boat and even, to be inconspicuous. To strive to be perfect, to cater to the male ego and to be polite, always. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting you be impolite. What I am suggesting is, as women, we compromise ourselves to fit in, to be liked, to do what we should do and be who we should be – rather than do what we want and be who we really are.
I love the word audacious – it puts a smile on my face. It means fearless, courageous, confident, bold, gutsy, spunky, and adventurous. Life is not about being perfect or looking perfect. Life is about the choices you make and the experiences you have. It’s about stepping fully into your power, unapologetically, with joy, grace and ease. It’s about taking calculated risks and getting out of your comfort zone. This is where Magic resides.
The opposite of audacious is fearful and timid.
Would you rather be brave or fearful?
It’s your life. Choose wisely.
by Amy Matthews | Jul 10, 2018 | Mindset |
No matter what age or experience level, so many women don’t feel good about themselves. They don’t feel good about who they are and doubt their choices, actions and desires.
I’ve found that even the most gorgeous, successful and kind woman is still hard on herself and can doubt her very existence.
Sound like you?
It’s our birthright to feel good. Better than good, I mean Awesome. We came into this world feeling good but like a sponge, we absorbed our family programming and the shoulds of society. Not feeling good enough, not worthy, not pretty or handsome can feel more familiar than feeling comfortable in our own skin. Maybe it’s because we weren’t taught to feel good. Or even, feel guilty about feeling good.
When you’re not feeling good, you block all the love and abundance meant for you.
It’s time to unlearn and unravel your old ways of being. It’s time to let go of beliefs and habits that aren’t serving you. That don’t lift you up. That don’t contribute to feeling good about yourself.
What limiting beliefs, patterns or attachments are you ready to let go of? Write them down. Create a ceremony to release the past and whatever no longer serves you.
We’re half way through the year. Let’s start Fresh. Let’s #Breakfree. Come on, it’s Time.
Empower Yourself and Let Go.
by Amy Matthews | Jun 25, 2018 | In-Power |
I met a woman last week who is an accomplished, driven, well educated and delightful 35 year old. She had just left her role with a larger company to pursue her dream of co-founding an early stage startup. Exciting!
She said she had always been into self improvement, always strived to get better, be better – in every aspect of her life. Though admirable, It can also be a sign of being too hard on yourself. She spent time working on her weaknesses rather than focusing on what she is really good at.
I told her this:
The most successful people in life are not great at everything.
Focus on your strengths. Your strengths are what you’re naturally good at so leverage them! Don’t try to be good at everything – especially the things you don’t like to do. Things that aren’t your sweet spot usually drain your energy or make you feel anxious vs. inspire and uplift you.
Embrace what you’re really good at and stop struggling doing things that you’re not. Your time is infinite so use it doing what brings you joy and ease.
If you’re really organized, rock on. If not, hire someone to get you organized.
If you’re an amazing baker, make that cake! If it’s not your thing, go buy one.
If you’re a visionary but not good with details, partner with someone who is.
To fully #breakfree and unleash yourself, focus on your strengths and outsource the rest.
