by Amy Matthews | Mar 5, 2019 | In-Power |
Throughout our lives we’ve been programmed to do our best, look our best, be our best.
We strive. We perform. We win. We get into the best schools. We go for the graduate degree. We get that coveted position. We earn the promotion. We start the company.
We learned along the way that to be loved, we needed to excel at what we do.
You’ve accomplished what you set out to do and your vision for yourself. It’s been a gratifying ride. One day instead of feeling a sense of pride, you wake up exhausted. You feel lonely. Your amazing track record isn’t doing it for you anymore. You ask “is this all worth it?” You needn’t throw the baby out with the bath water. The simple truth is, you’ve been neglecting yourself and your needs.
It’s time to make yourself a priority. It’s time to reconnect with your passions and what makes you feel good. It’s time to Identify what you want more of and less of – in your life.
Perhaps you want more space, more quiet, more calm. More fun and adventure. More exercise and walks in nature. More love and connection. More creativity and spark. Less worry and stress.
You are the artist of your life and can paint anything you want. Let your heart lead the way and your mind follow.
by Amy Matthews | Feb 26, 2019 | In-Power |
Men are notorious for controlling behavior and get a bad rap, especially in these times. The truth is, women can be just as controlling as men. In some circumstances, even more so.
We’re successful, driven women. We’ve been brought up in a culture where we’re valued on how we look and perform. Many of us tend to be perfectionists and expect things to be a certain way. We also are the ones keeping it all together, both at work and at home. So we tend to overdo for our kids, our husbands, partners and employees. We control our eating, our exercise, our future and the people closest to us. Perhaps it’s because we have a deep seated fear that we’ll implode if life doesn’t turn out exactly as planned.
I’m a recovering perfectionist so believe me, I get it.
Loosen your grip on the reins of your life and let your guard down. Why?
To bring more joy and spontaneity to your life. To not fear life will fall apart if you stop running on overdrive. To not fret over things that are out of your control – which btw, is most everything.
You are loved for who you are, not what you do. Trust you’ll get results without controlling everything and everyone. The people in your life will be grateful and you’ll have much more fun.
If I can do it, so can you. You got this.
by Amy Matthews | Feb 21, 2019 | In-Power |
I had a glass of wine with a woman who I recently met at an event. She’s in her mid to late 40s, beautiful, self aware, accomplished and down to earth. We started chatting and the conversation led to dating.
She told me she has a history of dating uber successful men. The type of man who wants a woman to support his agenda and his success, who prefers a woman to be the silent power in the relationship.
She said: “I need to learn to be that kind of woman but that’s not who I am.”
I said: “Then why learn to be that kind of woman?”
Many of us have been conditioned to play the supporting role in our own lives. We learned from the women that came before us. Instead of pursuing our own passions and dreams, we help husbands, partners, children, clients, friends, you name it, pursue theirs. We put their wants and needs and wellbeing before our own. Why? Because we think it’s our role. Whether you relate or not, we all know women to nominate for best supporting actress in real life.
I just saw the movie, The Wife. Glenn Close plays a dutiful and devoted wife, willing to sacrifice herself so her husband can ultimately receive the highest of honors and recognition. My favorite line in the movie is when her husband’s colleague asks her what she does. She replies; “I am a king maker.”
History will repeat itself, unless you choose differently. Unless you become front and center in your own life. Unless you rise up to what you really want and help other women do the same. Unless you wholeheartedly believe you are a Queen.
Be your very own queen maker. Your time is now.
by Amy Matthews | Feb 14, 2019 | Inspiration |
I’ve always loved Valentine’s Day. It brings back fond memories of making hand made valentine’s with doilies and the boxes of candy hearts I put on them. I have to say, they were always a hit with my grade school class! Remembering the innocence, anticipation and excitement I felt warms my heart.
It’s such a great reminder to be open to love of all kinds. In addition to giving and receiving love from a partner, family, friends, pets, clients and strangers – give yourself the love and appreciation you deserve. Here are a few ways to do just that:
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Respect Your Desires and Boundaries
Give Yourself Permission to Do What You Want
Speak Kindly to Yourself – Always
Be as loving to yourself as you are to every other person in your life. It’s never too late to fall in love with yourself. Instead of: Will You Be Mine? How about: I Am Mine!
by Amy Matthews | Feb 4, 2019 | Mindset |
It’s February! Winter weather with its grey skies, crazy cold temps, torrential rain and snow can make some of us feel blue. Or unmotivated, bored or even listless. If you’re in need of a pick me up, here are ten ways to nip those feelings in the bud.
1) Plan an adventure or better yet, go on one!
2) Exercise – no matter what. Endorphins always make us feel better
3) Adorn yourself with a splash of color. Try pink, deep blue, orange and red!
4) Cozy up with a juicy novel and a comfy throw
5) Create a vision board. I’m creating one for the relationship I’m manifesting 🙂
6) Make homemade, organic soup with lots of veggies
7) Soak in a candlelit bath with deliciously scented salts or bubbles
8) Use essential oils like geranium, bergamot or lavender to lift your mood
9) Create a magical ambiance with candles everywhere!
10) Buy yourself some daffodils, tulips or red roses
We only get one February a year so make the most out of it! Surround yourself with beauty and inspiration. Bring simple, sensual pleasures into your life that nurture your heart, mind, body and soul.
Choose what makes you feel good. Lift yourself up.
