by Amy Matthews | Apr 9, 2019 | Mindset |
Seeking balance is like the quest for the holy grail.
We search for it. As we pursue, it’s always out of reach. It’s just around the corner, out of our grasp. Perhaps that’s why “the idea” of it is so appealing. We try to manage and control it because we want our day to day life to look a certain way. It’s hard to win at this game because balance is a trap.
If we had balance, ALL OF THE TIME, life would be BORING.
Think of a teeter totter, if you stayed in the middle, wouldn’t it be dull? The fun is going up and down – with someone else on the other side. The same is true for a swing, if you were always up, you’d want to go the other way. And vise versa.
I don’t think it’s balance we want. I think what we really want is clarity and to feel grounded and at ease. So no matter what arises in life, ups or downs, we flow with it rather than fight or resist it.
The truth is, balance is an inside job. It’s trusting yourself, trusting that YOU GOT THIS and THE UNIVERSE HAS YOUR BACK. It’s being present to your thoughts because your thoughts create your feelings. To feel inspired, motivated, optimistic and have abundant energy, feed your mind with positive, uplifting thoughts.
CLARITY gives you CONFIDENCE
CONFIDENCE gives you CONVICTION
CONVICTION leads to CREATING the life you want
What nutritious thoughts are you CHOOSING today? Share in the comments below!
by Amy Matthews | Apr 2, 2019 | Business |
Several of my clients, 3 to be exact, all super competent, rising stars, are looking for a career change. Their current position is coming to an end so they’re looking for another position – inside and outside their current company.
It’s hard to have one foot planted in the old and one in the new. No matter what it is you want to create in your life – new job, relationship, home – transition isn’t easy. There are lots of moving targets. It takes energy and effort. It can be stressful and nerve wracking! The word transition means: changing from one state to another, morphing into something new.
Here are a 5 tips to make any transition easier:
1) Be Strategic and Intentional. Think Quality over Quantity
2) Choose what Resonates, what Lights You Up. If it’s not a hell YES, it’s a NO
3) Have an Abundance Mindset, Be Open to what Unfolds
4) Hold Out for What You Really Want
5) Be Patient, it’s a Virtue. Have Radical Trust.
Just like the caterpillar who turns into the butterfly, you’ll struggle at times. You may want to throw in the towel. But if you’re committed and willing to see it through, you will morph. You will create something new – that delights you. #Faith.
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by Amy Matthews | Mar 26, 2019 | In-Power |
Self confidence always comes up in conversations with clients. A lack of it is the one universal thing that holds us back. Most of us are confident in some situations in life. Perhaps you’re killing it in your job. You aced the preso or just landed your biggest client. Or your tennis game is off the charts. Or your relationship with your partner is WAY better. Or you feel a sense of ease that you haven’t felt in a very long time, or EVER.
But then something happens:
The product you’ve poured your soul into didn’t make the cut
The client you’ve worked so hard to get chose someone else
You didn’t get the offer
The cute guy you met on Tinder disappeared
Confidence can be tricky – one day you feel it, the next you don’t. The truth is:
real confidence isn’t situational. It’s knowing in your heart of hearts that you are enough. That you can do anything you choose to do. That everything will be okay – actually is – okay.
We’re not born with confidence. Confidence takes courage. It takes trusting yourself. The more you take inspired action towards what you want – regardless of the outcome – the more confident you’ll become.
It’s never too late to build your self confidence muscle. What actions are you going to take today to feel more confident?
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by Amy Matthews | Mar 19, 2019 | In-Power |
We all want to be liked, accepted and validated. It’s part of being human.
The problem is when we lose sight of what we want and what is best for us because we’re chasing after the approval of others.
After my corporate gig in Silicon Valley, I took a job as VP of Sales for a start-up. I knew if wasn’t a good fit after only 5 days in the role. The 30 year old founder/CEO was a control freak and fear based. Instead of listening to my intuition, I told myself, I CAN DO THIS. I CAN MAKE THIS WORK. No matter how hard I tried, I wasn’t able to get the acknowledgement I wanted. I forfeited myself to make it “work”. I put myself through extreme misery. It wasn’t pretty. I would have been MUCH better off if I had called it a day, cut my losses after that 1st week. Lesson learned.
Have you ever sacrificed your own well being, trying to prove yourself to yourself and others? At some point, I think we all have. Many of us have been groomed to believe
“I am what I think you think I am.”
It’s time to unravel that belief. It’s time to value your own opinion of yourself – above all else. You get to create life situations that energize you. You get to surround yourself with people who value you and support you.
You get to create the life you really want. So what is it that you really want – right now? Comment below, I’d love to hear!
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by Amy Matthews | Mar 12, 2019 | Mindset |
I was in Sun Valley last week for the Film Festival and some late winter fun. The short adventure gave me a fresh perspective and fuel for my soul. It’s a great reminder that getting away from my day to day routine is always a good idea.
One of my favorite movies was a documentary, Like, which is about the impact of social media on our lives. It’s a must see. We’ve become addicted to our phones and social media and many of us base our self worth entirely on how people perceive us – how many likes we get from a post – not on how we inherently feel about ourselves. Looking for validation and approval from the outside is creating an epidemic of low self esteem, depression and anxiety – especially among teenage girls.
Here’s the thing: comparing yourself to another who you think has more or is doing more is always a no win situation. It leads to feeling bad about yourself and your life. There is no one exactly like you on the planet. You are one of a kind. Your unique self – your secret sauce – is your edge.
It’s our birthright to feel good about ourselves so it’s up to us to stop playing the comparison game. It’s up to us to reign in our use of social media. It’s up to us to set an example. Be a role model for other women and girls.
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